I used to pay a lot of attention to aspects of my life that were not ( in my mind ) working. Now I have discovered a much better approach. Paying more attention to what is already working actually gives me more of what is working. By focusing on what I like about my relationships, my work , my home etc, I become more aware of what I have that is working well, I feel more fulfilled, energised, enthusiastic. Give it a try I'm sure you will love the results as much as I do. Give yourself some time to reflect you will be well rewarded.